Pre-Nups: Is There A Double Standard?
In a recent episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, singer Kandi Burruss disclosed that she and her fiancé Todd Tucker will be in fact signing a pre-nup before they walk down the aisle into marital bliss. For some reason, her decision has garnered a lot of attention and I can’t help but to wonder if it’s because she’s a woman. It seems almost customary that if a woman marries a man of a certain financial stature, that a pre-nup was automatic. So why is it all of sudden, there’s so much controversy about Kandi wanting to protect her assets???
This is what she said regarding the matter:
Since I’m newly engaged, I’m going to touch on a couple of things in the last couple of episodes that would be related to marriage and family. First I’ll go back to my conversation with Porsha about pre-nups. I do believe in pre-nups. I know that some people feel if you are truly in love and are planning to be dedicated to your marriage that a pre-nup somehow means the person requesting the pre-nup is expecting the marriage to fail. I don’t agree. I feel like it’s a safety precaution. Just like if you have a fire extinguisher in your home it doesn’t mean you expect it to burn down, but you’re just prepared to put out the fire before it starts if need be. I’ve had friends and associates who didn’t get a pre-nup say “they didn’t need one,” “she or he would never do that,” etc. But then later when they got divorced, things got ugly, and the person tried to get everything, they were like, “I would have never thought they would have done that to me,” “she or he is not the person I married,” blah, blah, blah. I feel like people do some crazy and vindictive things when they’re hurt, so I think there should be agreements set in place while everyone is thinking clearly. That way if D-day ever comes (and hopefully it won’t, but if it does), then it doesn’t have to get uglier and more hurtful than it already is.”
I don’t think anyone plans for their marriage to fail regardless of what pre-cautions they take or don’t take, but what do you think? Do you think that people didn’t expect for Kandi to ask for a pre-nup being that she’s a woman? Are you for them? Against them? Let me know!